I’ve been married for 27 years to the same man through trials hard times and bull crap. The only thing that I was able to change through prayer was me. Your focus must be on your spiritual mental emotional and physical health. When you’ve effectively taken care of you, then all else will fall into place because you will begin to operate in discernment that comes from God. Men generally don’t change, we do. We change to placate and pacify and keep them.  Doing everything for them and forsaking ourselves. That’s unhealthy and they don’t appreciate it and begin to take us for granted and so do our children. Pray, take care of yourself, get counseling for you, go back to work.  He’s not going anywhere.