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I believe in transference.  “Transference is a phenomenon characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another” I mainly believe in getting the things that disturb me off my mind and outta my heart so I can be free of whatever angst or anxiety was associated with the situation or thing. 

I actually started at a young age where the things that disturbed me.  I told my mom about the folks that teased me about my glasses in 1st grade.  She told me everything would be fine and it was. She never needed to tell me how shemade it fine,  but it was and everything else was always worked out.  I was free to go and do and be.
I also would transfer bad feelings, we’d were avid Omen movie goers.  Whatever would disturb me, i would dump on some unsuspecting poor soul and I’d feel better.

When there would be terrible news or a horrible situation I would feel extremely bad and I would tell someone and seemingly transfer my terrible feelings to them.  My therapist got alot of it – and still does.  There was freedom in transferring my concerns and issues to someone else.  Trouble was that oftentimes I’d grab the situation right back like it was mine to lament over.
Souring relationships, annoying disobedient children, mean co workers, nasty neighbors, bad health, overweight body, problems on every side – somehow I felt they were all mine and even after I world transfer them, I’d pick them right back up. Dwayne told me one time that if he answered the phone one more time and I played that transference game one more time, he’d stop answering my calls. .. LOL I switched to unsuspecting Henry

But God! I used to write my situation or concern in my journal (loads of them with my entire crazy story) and then I would use the concordance (before google) for a scripture to help me.  I would write that scripture and then write my prayer.

One day I found

1 Peter 5b All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because,
“God opposes the proud
    but shows favor to the humble.”[a]
6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

AND

Philippians 4:6-7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Peace, there it was, that’s what I had been looking for with all this transference I’d been doing over the years.  I could humble myself recognizing that it’s just not about me, but God,  that I could transfer all my stuff to God cause he cares for me.  Then I could stop worrying about everything husband kids house finances friends family church church members church stuff weight, we’ll maybe not weight….. (therapy)

There’s freedom in prayer. I thank God for that.  There’s deliverance in prayer, there’s healing in prayer, there’s hope in prayer, there’s answer in prayer, there’s joy in prayer, that’s discernment in prayer, there’s happiness in prayer, there’s mind regulating in prayer, there’s heart mending in prayer, there’s direction in prayer, there’s transference in prayer. The really great thing about prayer is I don’t know nor do I have to know how it works things out. Like my mom would fix things and situations when I was in 1st grade I didn’t have to know what she did, but just that she would do.  God is even better than that.

I have found the One that I can transfer all my stuff to, the One and only One that can fully effectively, when I humble myself, lift me up and give me peace in the midst of, despite what has happened.

Loving and caring God,  thank you for the power of prayer. Thank you for the promise of your word, that you for revival and for reflection, we Praise you for peace. Thank you Lord that as we give my issues and concerns to you, you put them in proper perspective and heal us and give us peace. In the name of Christ we pray.

btw… therapy works, somethings we can’t handle or manage our negotiate, even with prayer and we have to trust and believe that God dispatches angels in many ways and forms to get us to the place where we can be healed and delivered by God’s miraculous power.

5 responses »

  1. Excellent blog Pastor Toni. I have been the dispatcher and recipient of the phenomenon of transference. Your scripture and advice regarding therapy are on point. I’m not sure where I would be without both….

    Don

  2. I have learned to trust God in all things. Thank God for his word and your wisdom. Praying that God will continue doing great things through you. May he give you grace and mercy as he use you for his will. Amen.

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